Becoming a first time mother is definitely scary. We are in charge of caring for another human being! And the preparation for this new person is overwhelming. There is furniture, clothing, medicine, pumps, and toiletries. The list goes on and on. Then, there is the pregnancy itself. There is a list of what you can eat and what you shouldn’t eat. There are exercises that you should and should not do. There is test after test after test to make sure your baby is doing well.
How in the world are we going to be able to handle everything once the baby comes? This little person is going to depend on us for every possible thing imaginable. We’ve never done this before. How are we going to know what to do?
It is an interesting process. Yes, we are unsure but when those little eyes stare back at you, you know exactly what to do. Yes, we might have to call the pediatrician every week for the first two months but those calls will slow down eventually. Yes, we post questions in our mommy groups about every new milestone but the answers aren’t as overwhelming as they were in the beginning. Yes, we text our other friends who are moms every single time we need to figure something out but eventually, someone will start texting us and we will know the advice to give them.
Being a mother is all about instinct. We figure out how we need to protect our child. When something comes up, we react immediately in order to do whatever we need to. We know when our child is just whining about something and when he or she really is not feeling well. We know when our child is hungry and thirsty. We know when they want to read a book, play outside, or when they want to listen to Machli Jal Ki Rani and dance around. It’s really something amazing to be able to meet the needs of someone else.
There is so much to learn when becoming a mom. We all have the ability to learn it too. In the end, we just have to trust ourselves and know that we are always making decisions on what is best for our child no matter what anyone else says. There will be times when we doubt ourselves but that’s when we turn to someone who is in the position to help. Everything we do, every step we take is for our child. As a mom, we just know.
Written by Shailee Butalia – A second generation Indian mother of a gorgeous daughter living in the USA… writing this on behalf of the wonderful team of Ghotu Motu Ki Toli.
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